• 5 ways to prioritize rest

    When Monday morning rolls around, it’s only a matter of time before I hear someone say “I completely wasted my weekend! I had so many things that I should have done, but I spent the whole weekend watching Netflix and napping!” When I hear this, I want to say to them, “You didn’t waste your…

  • Why is it so hard to be kind to ourselves?

    We’ve all heard the phrase, “Everyone you know is fighting a battle you know nothing about, be kind, always” and many of us put this into practice every day. You might find it easy to give a gentle smile to each person you pass on your morning walk, be patient with the barista who is…

  • Grief Counselling isn’t only for the bereaved

    Most of us link the word “grief” with “bereavement”. Although grief is definitely present when someone close to us dies, it’s not the only time that this big emotion will pop up in our lives. “Grief” refers to the feelings of sorrow, sadness and mourning that are brought on by a loss. This loss doesn’t…

  • Counselling for low self-esteem

    Self-esteem struggles are one of the most common reasons that folks reach out to a counsellor for support. Whether you’re aware that low-self esteem is dragging you down, or if low self-worth is underpinning bigger problems in your life, talking to a counsellor can be an important step in improving the way you see yourself.…

  • Let’s talk about bisexual erasure

    Bisexual erasure is a tricky subject to talk about. For starters, it’s a concept that most people have likely never heard of. It’s an idea that can be easily dismissed by those who aren’t impacted by it, but for those who are it can be distressing and isolating. It also touches on some ideas or beliefs that can…

  • can a counsellor help me to make a decision?

    Decision-making is one of the most universal challenges that we all grapple with. Some people find it easy to be decisive, quickly arriving at their choice with barely a backward glance. But for most of us, figuring out how to proceed when faced with a decision can be a real struggle.  If you’re feeling overwhelmed and uncertain…

  • The importance of community in celebrating identity

    Last week, I had the pleasure of diving into a juicy conversation with two friends about identity and self-discovery. Although the three of us are from very different backgrounds and identities within the LGBTQIA+ community, there were common threads running through all of our stories.  In each case, we had all carried around a feeling of…

  • What Can I expect from my first counselling appointment?

    Attending your first counselling appointment can feel daunting. If you’ve never seen a counsellor before, you might have no idea what to expect. Even if you have been to a counsellor in the past, you might feel anxious about meeting someone new and not knowing how they work. Getting over the hurdle of making your first appointment…

  • Why I don’t use the 5 stages of grief.

    Most people usually haven’t heard of many of the concepts and frameworks that I use in my grief counselling practice. But there is one theory that everyone seems to have heard of: The 5 Stages of Grief. This theory was created by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and proposes 5 “Stages” of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. This…

  • Grief Counselling for Break-ups

    When you think of a “grief counsellor”, you probably imagine someone who works with clients who have experienced the death of someone close to them. Although I work with a lot bereaved clients, grief counselling can be useful for other types of losses. Breakups represent a significant loss, and there are a lot of similarities between…