• How social media can erode self-esteem (and what to do about it)

    Picture this: you take a moment to reflect on yourself and your life, and feel content with what you see. Your work is going well, you’ve got quite a few close friends, you’re really enjoying your hobbies and you feel pretty confident in your appearance. Things are looking pretty good for you! Then you take…

  • 4 ways to improve your relationship conflict

    Conflict is inevitable in relationships. No matter how aligned you and your partner are, there are bound to be differences in opinion, clashes of needs and wants and moments of hurt and disconnection. All couples argue, but not all arguments have to be distressing and destructive. If you struggle during conflict, or find yourself having…

  • Chronic Illness and Grief

    A type of grief that I don’t often see discussed is the grief that comes with being chronically ill. Chronic illness is a tricky thing to navigate, because one of it’s defining features is unpredictability. Managing an illness that is ever-changing and ongoing is draining, difficult and tinged with grief. If you are chronically ill,…

  • Bisexuality Myths

    Today is Bisexual Visibility Day, which seems like the perfect time to bust a few bisexuality myths. Bisexuality is often misunderstood, which can make it challenging to claim the label, understand your identity as a bisexual person and feel accepted by others. Here are a few of the most pervasive myths about bisexuality. Bisexuals are…

  • Why did I become a counsellor?

    My path to becoming a counsellor was a long and challenging one. My original career plan was to become a lawyer, because I dreamed of doing community legal work and helping people out of difficult spots and challenges. I decided to do a double degree and add psychology to my workload (I know, what an…

  • Using Creativity to Counteract Anxiety

    When it comes to managing anxiety, creativity is an underrated tool. Tapping into your creative side can help to soothe your anxiety and allow your mind to take a break when you’ve been running on a mental hamster wheel of rumination and fear. When we feel anxious, the amygdala in the left hemisphere of our…

  • Reassurance for parents of transgender kids.

    Parenting a teenager who is exploring their gender identity can be a rollercoaster. There are bound to be a lot of surprises, shocks and twists, and you can find yourself feeling totally unprepared for the task ahead of you. It’s easy to get caught up in providing support and care for your child and let…

  • Improving self-esteem to improve your life

    It’s astonishing how many personal and relationship issues flow back to self-esteem. More often than not, the way you feel about yourself, your belief in your own abilities and your own sense of self-worth is underneath the issue that’s bothering you. Low self-esteem can pop up in all kinds of contexts, and cause so many…

  • The reason why I don’t give my clients advice

    A lot of people seem to be stumped when I tell them that I don’t give my clients advice. Prospective clients will often ask “But if you won’t tell me what I should do, how can you help me?” It’s a fair question. If you’re in a dilemma, the best way for someone to assist…

  • You Can’t make someone change their behaviour (No matter how hard you try)

    I will often see clients who have come to counselling because they’re being impacted by someone else’s behaviour. Some examples of this include: These clients will show up to a counselling session with the question “How do I make them change?” Up until this point, their focus has been on trying to get the other…